As parents or caregivers, we are often asked to notice and celebrate major milestones like the baby taking their first step or saying their first words, “mama” or “dada”.
Even if these milestones are important, it is important to know that there are more milestones than just these. We can call them the soft signs, which we often fail to notice or ignore. Looking into these soft signs can help us track our child’s growth and use early interventions if required.
Milestone myths decoded:
Physical milestones are not the only major milestones. Also, every child is unique. For instance, if a child does not talk by 18-24 months, parents easily become concerned. However, some children talk less and observe more. The myth lies in the fact that only major milestones are important. This myth can delay support for children who are struggling, as the “soft signs” are being ignored.
What exactly are soft signs?
Soft signs are subtle signs that indicate that the child is doing exceptionally well in terms of growth and development, or they might require professional support.
Let us look at some of these soft signs:
Limited eye contact with caregivers or peers.
Difficulty learning or mimicking different sounds or gestures.
Not responding to name being called by 9-12 months.
Repetitive movements or gestures (flapping hands, lining up toys in order).
Prefers to spend time alone rather than with people.
The above soft signs can be an indicator of neurodevelopmental disorders like autism, speech delays, etc. However, it is better to consult a child therapist before deciding on what is appropriate.
Why are soft signs important?
Soft signs do not appear suddenly. They can come slowly and gradually. It can affect the way a child interacts, behaves, plays, or even reacts. Hence, it is important to catch these clues on time so that the child can get an early intervention.
Besides, milestones can vary based on one’s culture as well. For instance, in Mexico, children as young as two stack firewoodaccording to the BBC.However, this milestone is not the norm in other countries. Hence, it is important to take development within context and not just through books.
What should you do as a parent?
As a parent, the most important tip to follow is not to panic. Remember that each child has a unique developmental journey of their own. Follow the tips below:
Do not compare children since each child has a different developmental timeline.
This goes without saying, but do not hit or punish your child if they miss out on milestones or if they get delayed.
Watch out for how your child plays, interacts, and reacts. Note down in a diary if you suspect something, and talk to your pediatrician if you have any concerns.
Conclusion:
Sometimes, the quietest signs are the loudest! So, do keep an eye out for those hidden soft signs and do not just wait for major milestones to validate your child’s growth and progress.
