If you observe your toddler fervently avoiding eye contact, don’t worry! Many parents are in the same boat as you. Eye contact is a way of communicating and connecting with people. Many children grow at their own pace, but limited eye contact can be a cause of concern. Let us delve into the reasons why children might avoid eye contact.
Why is eye contact necessary?
Before we delve into the reasons why children avoid eye contact, it is important to know why it is necessary. Eye contact is necessary to foster connection with others. It is a part of the bonding process and greatly helps in non-verbal communication, too. Eye contact can also aid in expressing emotions.
When should you be concerned?
Children may avoid eye contact if they are too shy or preoccupied with something. Let us look at some of the signs that require attention:
Rarely makes eye contact or avoids it: Even shy children have their moments in which they make eye contact. If your child actively avoids eye contact, then it can be a point of concern.
Does not respond to their name by 1 year of age: By this age, a child should look back when they are called. If your child does not respond even in an isolated environment, then it can be worth looking into.
Avoids looking at caregivers or playmates while playing: If your child avoids looking at people while playing, it could be because they are struggling to connect visually with people.
Why might your child avoid eye contact?
Let us look at some reasons why a child might avoid eye contact:
Shyness: Some children might naturally be shy and wish to avoid eye contact. It would go away with time, or you can take the tips given below to help manage it.
Autism: Eye contact avoidance can be a possible sign of Autism, though it is not necessary.
Anxiety/trauma: Some children might feel fearful of making eye contact. It might be related to some trauma. It is important to check in with a child psychologist in such cases.
What can you do as a parent?
Persistent poor eye contact can be a sign of speech delays or communication issues. Consult a specialist if required. You can also follow the given tips:
Play games that encourage eye contact, like peek-a-boo.
Read interactive picture books and pause to check if the child looks at you.
Reward their every little glance and smile.
Mirror their positive interactions back to them with the same excitement. For example, if they clap and smile in excitement, do the same.
Do not force eye contact, be patient, and create a safe, secure environment.
Use non-verbal gestures to talk to them.
Remember, every child is unique in their own way! Eye contact may not come naturally to your child, but that's fine. Just a little love and patience can go a long way in making them feel safe and seen.
