You might have noticed subtle red flags in your child’s behaviour. It seems that only you are noticing those subtle changes because as soon as you inform about your suspicions to someone else, you are often met with dismissive responses. However, one’s gut instincts are usually never wrong. If you think something doesn't feel right about your child’s behaviour, then this blog is for you.
Why should you not ignore your gut feeling?
It is important not to ignore your gut feeling because recognizing subtle behavioural signs might help in the early detection of developmental delays, emotional struggles, or learning differences. It could help in providing timely support and care for the child.
What can be subtle concerns in a child’s behaviour?
Parents can often detect some signs and red flags in children. Some of which are given below:
Aggressiveness or irritability towards people and animals.
Extreme anxiety or fear of people or certain objects.
Constant sadness or withdrawal.
Changes in sleep pattern (Staying awake all night or sleeping for too long).
Persistent avoidance of eye contact.
Poor academic performance.
Delay in meeting growth milestones.
Changes in eating patterns (eating too much or too little).
Self-harming behaviors (Example: Banging one’s head against the wall).
Inability to speak or even babble.
Shows no interest in other children or being around people.
Repetitive body movements (constantly rocking back and forth, flapping arms).
Wanting things to be in a proper routine, being upset if the routine is disturbed (for instance, arranging toys in a particular manner).
Disruptive behaviour in school.
Fidgeting constantly/feeling restless.
Risky/impulsive behaviour.
There are many other signs that might not be in the above list. Sometimes, these signs can be a normal part of the child growing up, but a combination of many of these signs might be concerning.
What can you do as a parent?
Create a safe and non-judgmental environment for your child. If they feel the need to open up to you, listen patiently and be empathetic to them.
Some steps to take are given below:
Track down behaviour changes, patterns, or missed milestones. You can compare them with general guidelines, but do not panic if you see delayed developmental milestones or subtle red flags.
Talk to your pediatrician and note down their advice.
Get a second opinion if unsure.
If your child exhibits positive behavioural patterns, make sure to reward them. It can act as positive reinforcement.
Do not smack, hit, or be violent with the child. Be patient, gentle, and understanding.
If your child feels scared and overwhelmed, reassure them with love and understanding.
As a parent, you can also seek help from their teachers or other caregivers and professionals to help manage this. You are not alone.
If you suspect something is wrong with your child, do not forget to show them to a professional. Your gut instincts matter! Do not ignore your instincts just because people dismissed your concerns. Remember, you know your child best more than anyone else!
